Talk about Marriage
It was an action packed weekend. Well actually it was a lot of hurry up and wait, but we still had a good time.
Saturday I went out to Lake Texoma. We were having a get picture party with some of the people from Costa Rica. There was a funny coincidence. The sister of one of the missionaries in Costa Rica lives in Garland. We invited her and her family out to join us on the lake. Well it turns out that I used to work with her husband at Marconi. Freaky small world sometimes. The day was great, but instead of making it back to the dock at 4:00 so I could make the 1.5 hour drive back to Coppell to attend and Eagle Ceremony, we had mechanical difficulties on the boat. The wench to raise the anchor wouldn't work so we spent an hour raising 40' of road an chain manually. We had to raise it a couple of inches at a time. I made it to the church as everyone was leaving, but I got to give Chris his gift, apologize, and say congratulations.
Sunday, Dezi's cousin Jennifer was graduating from High School. We drove out to the Fort Worth Convention center. Afterwards we went back to her Aunt and Uncle's house for lunch and conversation. They have a play room with a foosball table above the garage. At one point, Dezi's dad, myself, and three of her cousins were playing foosball with about 6 balls on the table. It was fun, but I have no idea who was winning.
Sunday night Dezi and I had been asked to talk at River. River is the youth's contemporary worship service that they have once a month. The theme was spiritual journeys and since we had recently become engaged, they wanted us to speak about our experience with getting engaged and everything. We worked on it and came up with a couple of points that we wanted to leave with the kids. They all sound pretty simple, but they are deceptively complicated.
Traits to look for in a serious relationship
- They should make you happy; That does not mean they should make your parents happy or your friends happy. Or that you should be happy because of the status dating them gives you.
- You should trust them completely
- They should be your equal; Challenge you to be better and make you want to be better. Hopefully their strengths compliment your weaknesses.
- Probably hardest of all: You must be a whole person before you can give yourself completely to anyone else; We talked about how we had to be happy with ourselves before we could be happy with someone else.
It was a good weekend, but now it's back to the grind stone. I have a ton of code I need to crank out this week and I suppose I should get to it.
