Tuesday, May 25, 2004

Talk about Marriage

It was an action packed weekend. Well actually it was a lot of hurry up and wait, but we still had a good time.

Saturday I went out to Lake Texoma. We were having a get picture party with some of the people from Costa Rica. There was a funny coincidence. The sister of one of the missionaries in Costa Rica lives in Garland. We invited her and her family out to join us on the lake. Well it turns out that I used to work with her husband at Marconi. Freaky small world sometimes. The day was great, but instead of making it back to the dock at 4:00 so I could make the 1.5 hour drive back to Coppell to attend and Eagle Ceremony, we had mechanical difficulties on the boat. The wench to raise the anchor wouldn't work so we spent an hour raising 40' of road an chain manually. We had to raise it a couple of inches at a time. I made it to the church as everyone was leaving, but I got to give Chris his gift, apologize, and say congratulations.

Sunday, Dezi's cousin Jennifer was graduating from High School. We drove out to the Fort Worth Convention center. Afterwards we went back to her Aunt and Uncle's house for lunch and conversation. They have a play room with a foosball table above the garage. At one point, Dezi's dad, myself, and three of her cousins were playing foosball with about 6 balls on the table. It was fun, but I have no idea who was winning.

Sunday night Dezi and I had been asked to talk at River. River is the youth's contemporary worship service that they have once a month. The theme was spiritual journeys and since we had recently become engaged, they wanted us to speak about our experience with getting engaged and everything. We worked on it and came up with a couple of points that we wanted to leave with the kids. They all sound pretty simple, but they are deceptively complicated.

Traits to look for in a serious relationship

1. They should make you happy; That does not mean they should make your parents happy or your friends happy. Or that you should be happy because of the status dating them gives you.


2. You should trust them completely


3. They should be your equal; Challenge you to be better and make you want to be better. Hopefully their strengths compliment your weaknesses.


4. Probably hardest of all: You must be a whole person before you can give yourself completely to anyone else; We talked about how we had to be happy with ourselves before we could be happy with someone else.

It was a good weekend, but now it's back to the grind stone. I have a ton of code I need to crank out this week and I suppose I should get to it.

9:25 AM Posted by Big Dave | 0 Thoughts

Wednesday, May 19, 2004

This is wild

This is just too wild for words.

Make a woman out of your computer. Hentai Girl

How about this for a solution to those overheating problems. Mini Fridge/Computer

2:02 PM Posted by Big Dave | 0 Thoughts

Monday, May 17, 2004

Weekend Debris

Not a lot going on this weekend. Wedding planning is underway. Dezi has set up a wedding blog for future updates. I'll try to leave most of the details on that page, but there is definitely going to be some bleed over since this is going to be a major event in my life.

1:03 PM Posted by Big Dave | 0 Thoughts

Friday, May 14, 2004

Turning a corner

I was talking to my friend Sarah at work today. I was talking to her about the huge undertaking that planning a wedding seems to be. I told her some of my feelings about it and my reservations for the giant obstacle that is before us.

Sarah then asked if I had seen "Father of the Bride." I had seen it, but it had been a long time. She reminded me of the scene where Steve Martin freaks out in the supermaket and starts ripping apart hot dog buns since they put the wrong number of buns to hot dogs and the gets sent to jail. Diane Keaton comes to bail him out. Before she does, she makes him raise his right hand and swear not to freak out anymore. "Every sigh, every roll of your eyes takes a little piece away from your little girls happiness." (Sorry I'm paraphrasing here)

Thank you Sarah for that great advice, I'm definitely going to take it to heart.

1:18 PM Posted by Big Dave | 0 Thoughts

Wedding plans

It's started. Dezi and I talked for a long time last night about wedding plans. Actually let me rephraise that. She talked about wedding plans and I dodged the question.

When
The main question is when. She proposed January 2006. I kept thinking that if we eloped we could do it in August of '04. I'm currently proposing August 6 of '05. Now there are a couple of fun reasons. One of those being that it's my birthday so I will never forget the anniversary (See I'm thinking ahead). Something else that would be funny is to get married on 05-05-2005, but that's a Thursday. It just seems like such a long ways away.

Destination
Her: Where are we going to have it?
Me: Maui
Her: No we aren't going to Maui

Ok. So I couldn't sell the queens on the Maui idea, but I have made the offer to reconsider when the craziness of wedding planning gets into full swing.

Music
Her: What music do you want to have at the wedding?
Me: Duel of the Fates

She didn't approve of my choice. I also offered up Disturbed, Bloodhound Gang, and Digital Underground. She didn't like any of those choices either. She also informed me that I would not be playing "Another one bites the Dust."

Music
From there we got into potential themes for the wedding. Some of my favorites are:

Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles - She and her bridesmaids can be the turtles with the pastor being Splinter. I would be Shredder with Rocksteady, Beebop, and Brain.

Chewy and Leia - Hubba Hubba.

Shaggy and Velma - Scooby Dooby Doo

The Smurfs - But when I pointed out that there were only two female smurfs and she wouldn't have any brides maids the informed me that some of the smurfs had undergone sex change operations and she would have bridesmaids. I think that's when I changed the subject.


I guess I need to stop being difficult and really start thinking about some of this. It would be a lot easier once the date and site are locked in. Right now it all seems very abstract. I can tell that I'm frustrating Desiree though. I guess part of me just doesn't want to cope with that piece yet.

10:46 AM Posted by Big Dave | 0 Thoughts

Tuesday, May 11, 2004

Wedding plans

I'm currently lobbying for the possibility of eloping to Hawaii and getting married on the beach. She dismissed the possibility of getting married by the King out of hand, but she might consider this one.

Hail to the King Baby!

Now I just have to convince all the queens. Hmmm... That's going to be a very hard sell.

5:16 PM Posted by Big Dave | 0 Thoughts

Favorite Reactions

Reactions have been varied so far. Some of my favorites so far are:

"You're going to be married! Oh my God! You're going to be Married!" - Christi (friend from High School)
"You're so predictable." - Allen (Work compadre after discussing potential plans for how to propose and failing to do any of them in favor of taking immediate action)
"It's about time, now what's the date?" - Youth Counselor
"Now get ready for the fire storm." - Josh (Scheduled to be married in November)
"Yay! I'm getting a new cousin!" - Andy age 9

9:05 AM Posted by Big Dave | 0 Thoughts

Monday, May 10, 2004

And She Said Yes

It's been a busy weekend. As has already been pointed out, I'm lagging behind as far as using the web to make the grand announcement. I wanted to call and tell more people, but news is getting out anyway.

In case you can't figure it out, I asked Desiree to marry me late Saturday night. She accepted.

As my friend Josh put it, "Get ready for the firestorm." I could do without people making a big deal over me. Maybe I can convince her to go to Vegas and get married by Elvis.

10:23 AM Posted by Big Dave | 0 Thoughts

Thursday, May 06, 2004
It's been an exhausting week. I'm currently on coast for the rest of the week.

I spent a lot of time cleaning my apartment last weekend. The bathrooms now look like no one lives there, but at least they are clean. If only I could get the rest of the apartment to be like that.

I've been doing a lot of cooking this week and have discovered that Stubb's barbecue sauce is really, really good. Friday Dezi got a new laptop from her parents as her graduation present. She was all excited about it, but has been spending a lot of time studying. She finished her finals yesterday and now she can play. Saturday went over to Dezi's grandparents. People were in from out of town and they wanted to get together.

It was my Sunday to plan youth. We'd decided a while back to have a barbecue picnic and play capture the flag. It was a beautiful day, but we had a group that refused to do anything we asked them to do.

I'm really out of it today. And it has nothing to do with being under the influence of a chemical substance. It's called lack of sleep. Tuesday night Yaser and I stayed all night trying to figure out how to get DB2 loaded on a Linux box. It didn't cooperate the way we had hoped that it would. We finally got it to work, but there are still some issues to work out. I'm excited to learn Linux, but the learning curve is woefully steep.

This weekend is Dezi's graduation she's getting her Master's in something. It has something to do with child psychology and behavioral medicine. She tells me, but I don't remember which order all the words come in.

Also on tap this weekend is a Coffee House/Talent Show for the youth. It's going to be interesting. Dezi and some of the youth are going to be performing in "Three Chicks and a Uke." Yeah, it's going to be an interesting show.

11:26 AM Posted by Big Dave | 0 Thoughts